The Remarkable Life of Ibelin 2024 Movie Review
Greetings again from the darkness. As parents we fool ourselves into believing we know our children and what they are up to. After all, they live in the same house and eat the same meals. Norwegian documentarian Benjamin Ree shows us quite a contrast to this theory. What happens when a loving family discovers their son’s secret life much too late?
Trude and her husband Robert were thrilled when their son Mats was born in 1989. Shock and disappointment hit hard when Mats was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, a rare degenerative muscle disease for which there is no cure. Trude describes the pain of watching her son grow weaker. He had little appetite, became wheelchair bound, and made no real friends. As he got older, the parents refused to limit his computer time, as it was the only thing Mats seemed to want to do.
At age 18, Mats started a blog. By age 25 he was dead. His final blog entry was “Musings of Life”. Since the parents had Mats’ password, Robert posted “The Journey has Come to an End.” The family, including Mats’ sister Mia, assumed that was the end of it. What followed was a true blessing (and shock) for the family. Tributes and remembrances of Mats streamed in from the online community. It turns out, Mats was a vital and active member of the Starlight group within the World of Warcraft gaming field. Mats had created a new persona known as Ibelin, and he lived an online life that was impossible for him in the real world.
Some of these Starlight folks held a memorial for Mats, which meant so much to the family. We hear directly from some of the folks Mats had helped along the way. He was described as intuitive at helping other lost souls. His dad calculated that Mats had spent approximately 20,000 hours online over the last ten years of his life, and the family was elated that Mats had not led the life of isolation they assumed, and instead thrived behind the Ibelin avatar. This revelation was a true blessing, and it’s told beautifully in this documentary.
